Kirby

For the only time ever in this blog I'm going to actually use the guys real name. Kirby.

Where do I even start with this. Kirby was my first "Latin Lover" and it was through him that I learned all the Latin Lover ways/rules. It was a gift that I actually got experience with this at such a young age, 18yrs old to be exact. Kirby was a sexy Honduran military man who was friends with my best friends sister. He lived in Pensacola and during Freshman year Spring Break a group of us drove down to visit my BFFs family, and check out Kirby. I'd seen pictures and was completely smitten so I was really excited to finally meet him. He was everything I needed him to be at that time in my life. He was sexy, charming and intriguing. He was a strong military man who could make you melt as soon as he started speaking Spanish. Meeting Kirby and having this experience was an unforgettable time in my life and I reference it often cause I learned so much about how to be carefree. I've always held Kirby up to a higher standard because of what he meant to me back then. I saw Kirby a few times over a course of a year, but then he left to go to Italy. I was starting a new relationship so we both, at that point, moved on.

I reconnected with Kirby on Facebook about two years ago. It was brief. I was now single but he was married. I knew this, not because he told me, but because my BFFs family are friends with him and still talk to him. There isn't much that I can't find out about Kirby because we're connected through the same people.

Last year for my birthday I was out of town for work. I got a message from him wishing me "happy birthday" and it completely caught me off guard. I called him when I got back from my trip and we talked for about an hour on the phone. This is when I realized that something was different about him. Kirby proclaimed that he was never married. But I knew this was a fact because I checked on it. He lied right on the phone with me and it was pathetic. He technically was going through a divorce but he didn't even own up to that. I called him out on his lie and he finally confessed. Lesson #1: No matter how much hope you have for someone, they have the potential to disappoint you. People change. You change.

I was reminded of Kirby because I was just informed, through Facebook, that he's getting married...again.  But instead of being disappointed in him, I praised the fact that I grew up enough to recognize that he is a complete hot mess. I even called my BFF and we laughed about it over the phone. Lesson #2: Some people come into your life and make all the difference, but they were meant only for that period of your life. Embrace it, enjoy the memories and then move on to new life experiences!